family stories

Thunder rerun

by mayberry on March 24, 2009

This is from almost exactly two years ago. The weather today is the same as it was when I wrote it, so I am reposting it today.

Two years ago this week, I bumped into a neighbor who’s married to an ob-gyn. Making small talk about my impending delivery, I said I hoped the coming full moon would do the trick. “Or maybe we’ll get a thunderstorm,” she replied.

I’d never heard that before, but she swore that she, her husband, and his colleagues over the years had noticed a significant uptick in births during and just after storms. Thunderstorms are a summer phenomenon, I thought; the snow is just barely receding. There’s no way we’ll get one now.

Sure enough, a few days later thunder clapped through the sky, lightning flashed, slashing rain fell, my dog curled into a tiny ball, trembling and panting. And my baby … stayed firmly put. He didn’t emerge until more than a week later.

Tonight we ushered in spring with a rousing storm. This time, no restless baby kicking at my insides, keeping me guessing on when he’d come and who he’d be. Now a toddler demanding “more boom!” Now a tiny boy following his big sister’s lead, hovering over a terrified dog, patting and soothing. “Okay, Fah-ee. Okay.” Now a blond head nodding to sleep on my shoulder as the lightning bursts through the window blinds. Now my own Opie.

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The Mad Family

by mayberry on March 18, 2009

Mad drawing skillz, that is!
The assignment was to draw a self-portrait, so Opie drew himself “with a mad face” (top left; apparently also with some kind of bunny ear/mohawk thing going on. And also he’s holding a sword, one that “shoots needles”). Then he required everyone else to draw a Mad self-portrait. Jo is on the upper right with the unibrow. Jeff is at the bottom left, being shot by a needle and shouting at the sword-bearer. Also he’s on fire. I am on the far right with angry eyebrows and bared teeth. And in the bottom center, Jo’s “surprise” look.

Here’s what I found irksome the other day: Our grocery store changed its policy on reusable bags. They no longer offer a 5-cent rebate for each bag you supply–only their branded bags count. I don’t use the reusables for the cash, but come on! What a stupid policy.

And you?

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From long-ago songs and someday goals

by mayberry on February 5, 2009

mom and kids readingI am from hardwood floors, from Meyer’s Dairy milk in glass bottles, served in wine glasses on special occasions.

I am from glass shelves lined with houseplants watered every Saturday.

I am from black walnut, honeysuckle, lilacs, and grass on a hill.

I am from makers of music, milkers of cows, riders of rails, Beckers and Stephenses, fair skins and blue eyes.

I am from the stubborn and the silent, the peacemaking and the retelling.

From long-ago songs and someday goals.

I am from Sunday Mass with doughnuts after.

I am from the centre, from this side of the Mississippi and that, from braunschweiger and fried mush.

From the prize-winning irises and the fourth commandment, the stroller rolling down Tracy Hill and the dog named Susie.

I am from quilts on my walls, rings on my finger, names handed down from generation to generation. I am a daughter, a sister, a mother before I am anything else.

Thanks to Kate for tagging me with this particularly creative meme, which was a nice challenge for me at a time when the blogging well is a little dry. I do love writing about old family stories.

Thanks also to Magpie for the Tickled Pink award! I think you’re the bees’ knees, Magpie.

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Wait a minute, Christmas is over?

by mayberry on December 27, 2008

Writing wrap-up posts gives me hives, so I’ll just say the following about the past week. These are the moments that I wish I could capture in a snow globe and revisit in the coming months and years:

  • Christmas Eve, Jo had to be dragged to church kicking and screaming (almost literally). She spent the first half of the service on my lap or huddled on the floor with the hood of her jacket up. Then, suddenly, she was captivated by “Angels We Have Heard on High.” She wanted to sing along and asked me to help her follow along in the hymnal. This continued for the remainder of the hour.

  • Christmas morning, the kids sleep later than they have in weeks. When Opie finally gets up, we go into Jo’s room to wake her up. Her first words are “You could have let me sleep a little longer, Opie!”
  • My dad didn’t pack his Christmas pants. My siblings and I scolded him soundly, then turned on our mother for allowing such an oversight. We suggested he turn around and drive nine hours back home to get them. He said “No.” Can you believe it?
  • He did, however, bring and wear his 7 jeans. Which looked great on him. Here is how it went down (let me note for the record that my dad is 71 and I haven’t seen him wear jeans in years, but he does work out like two hours a day). He came into the kitchen wearing these stylish, dark, skinnyish jeans. Me: “Wow, nice jeans!” Dad: “Pretty nice huh?” Mom: “They’re ’7 for all’ … nations, or countries or something.” Me: “7 For All Mankind??!?” Dad (shows off label): “Yeah, 7 For All Mankind. I got them at the Saks outlet.”
  • My mom could not get enough Wii bowling. She was constantly begging someone to play against her.
  • After everyone left, Jeff noted that Opie’s behavior had been very good, except for a few subpar moments, including that last morning. His response: “I was a little naughty because I didn’t want everyone to leave.” Little scam artist!
  • The family construction project (Playmobil airline terminal, with approx 1 beeellion pieces):

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Scrabble-icious

by mayberry on December 7, 2008

Hands down, the game my family is most obsessed with plays most often is Scrabble. I’m not even sure when this habit got started, but anytime my brother, sister, and I are together it is ALL ABOUT the Scrab. Being the Word Girl in the family, I assumed I would have a natural advantage, but that is not the case. My brother, the visual artist (and in recent years, his wife–another artist) is the undisputed champ. I talked him up so much that two years ago, one of our neighbors came over on Christmas Eve for a game just to see Steve in action (and got his butt kicked for his trouble).

Steve and his wife:

  • have memorized all the 2-letter words legal in Scrabble
  • brought a travel Scrabble set on their month-long camping honeymoon and played nightly
  • keep track of all the games they play on a spreadsheet. Data gathered includes total points scored, who played the Q and Z, any bingos, and probably more obscure information too.

I still play against them. But I go into it knowing that if I come within 50 points of their scores, I’ve done really well.

We also do have an alternate game in case we are all tired of getting clobbered. Syzygy is a fast-paced, board-free version of Scrabble. Each player creates her own grid of interlocking words using letter tiles. You start with 9 tiles, and when you’ve used them all you call “Draw!” and all players must grab another. You then continue to incorporate these new letters into your crossword; you are free to change anything you’ve already put down. The game is over when all the tiles are gone and one player has a complete crossword with no leftover tiles. (And then, half the fun is checking everyone’s work and arguing about the liberties they’ve taken with the English language.)

(Gift tip: If you’re shopping for someone Scrabble-obsessed, they must read Word Freak by Stefan Fatsis. Both a fascinating character study and a how-to manual for Scrabble nerds.)

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The Quotable Thanksgiving, starring Opie and Nonnie

by mayberry on November 30, 2008

Dramatis personae:

  • OPIE, a loquacious 3-year-old
  • NONNIE, his great-grandmother
  • GRAMMY, his grandmother
  • PAUL, Grammy’s gentleman friend

I. Wednesday afternoon. GRAMMY has taken OPIE to visit her workplace and is introducing him to her co-workers.

GRAMMY: This is Paul. He always helps me put your car seat in my car.
OPIE (suspiciously): That’s not the Paul that belongs to you.

II. Thursday morning, NONNIE’s living room.

NONNIE: Opie, come here and give me a kiss.
OPIE: I can’t. I haven’t shaved yet.

III. Friday morning, NONNIE’s kitchen. She opens the newspaper to the obituary pages.

NONNIE: Anyone dead from around here?
PAUL (not missing a beat): Not from [this town]. I already checked.

Fin.

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Sharing the news

by mayberry on September 16, 2008

On my way to and from Jo’s school I pass the hospital where Opie was born. A few days ago a fluorescent pink sign appeared in one of the windows, facing the street: IT’S A GIRL! It made me smile each time I passed.

When Jo was born, I had a c-section after many hours of labor. By the time my OB ordered the section, I had no problem giving up on the idea of vaginal birth. (I believe my exact words were “I don’t care how you do it. Just get it out so I can have a drink of water!”) After Jo was delivered, I was a basket case, given that I’d been in labor for nearly two full days without eating or sleeping. I was in no shape to call anyone to deliver the biggest news I’d ever be able to share. (AND they still wouldn’t give me any water. Boy was I mad.)

I realized later that that was one of the things that made me the saddest about the c-section. I hadn’t realized how badly I wanted that big Announcement Moment, where I got to tell family and friends about our baby girl. Instead, Jeff had to leave the room to go make the calls–since we’d told everyone hours and hours before that the birth was imminent, and our mothers were starting to completely lose their minds.

When Opie was born, I again had a c-section preceded by labor, just not quite so much of it. I recovered from the surgery more quickly and was able to make a few phone calls. No giant posters or candy cigars or clever websites–just a few spoken words, but it felt amazing.

Did you do anything special to announce your children’s births?

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View. Master!

by mayberry on August 18, 2008

We picked up this beauty on our last visit to Jeff’s mother’s house and its Attic o’ Treasures. It was hers when she was a child — so it’s, like, an actual antique, but it still works. The spring on the advancing level is so tight that Jo can barely depress it far enough to move the story along, however. Parental involvement required.

We have a whole box of slides, too, each with “7 three dimension full color pictures”: Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer, Disney on Parade, and travelogues from Rio de Janeiro to “Pennsylvania: The Keystone State.”

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I decided this is going to be Photo Week, since I am overwhelmed with work have lots of pretty pictures to share. And since great minds do think alike, Aimee announced that she’s starting a photo contest. So check it out, shutterbugs.

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They came, they saw, they primed and painted

by mayberry on June 11, 2008

After more than three days with two extra adults in the house, I’m ready to move to a kibbutz or some other communal living situation. Sure I enjoy privacy but damn if it isn’t nice to have extra people around to cook, clean, play pretend, and the like. Plus we have time for extracurricular projects:

Jo’s new room color,
with (a sop to the 6-year-old girlie) one pink wall;
and Opie’s new color(s), chosen to complement his “baseball guys”
and his two auntie-made quilts.

Yes, Grandma and Grandpa put down their crackberries, picked up some brushes and rollers, and helped us give both kids’ rooms a makeover. Opie is still grousing that he doesn’t LIKE brown, but I do and I am the one with the credit card so I won that particular fight. The fish (see pink wall) had a near-death experience–accidentally poured down kitchen sink into disposal–but was recovered and now is back in its rightful home. As are Grandma and Grandpa, who we’ll miss very much, but they have businesses to run and banjos to play so we’ll see them again another time. And a month from tomorrow we leave for San Francisco!

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Relax, schmelax

by mayberry on June 6, 2008

It turns out you can take Grandma out of the office, but you can’t actually get her to stay out. After two years of retirement (which included a lot more meetings and conference calls than shopping and shuffleboard anyway), my mom is going back to the salt mine. Next month she starts a one-year position, doing what she did before but at a different institution.

I don’t know what took her so long. I was surprised when she retired the first time, because she absolutely thrives on 18-hour days and 3-foot stacks of briefing materials. When she told me earlier this week that this gig was probably happening, she gave me some BS about “making a difference” and “worrying about the economy.” Finally I got her to confess that she’s bored.

I hope she finishes the mommy job I delegated to her a few months ago … printing and album-izing six years’ worth of photos of my kids. Yes, I handed her a stack of CDs and told her to go to town. Wasn’t that enough for her to do? Along with gallivanting all over the world? Apparently not!

I really like working (if not necessarily my particular job, at the moment) but I can’t imagine doing it voluntarily at age 67. I only wish I had half the passion that she does.

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