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Warm

by mayberry on November 22, 2009

My husband bought me an electric jacket for Christmas (and gave it to me already). For real–it has coils in it like an electric blanket. Plus it has a USB port for your iPod. High tech, baby.

My kids took a bath together the other night. They splashed and played and guffawed for a good half an hour. I can’t remember the last time they did that.

I got some new, cozy, hole-free socks. It’s amazing how much of a positive difference this can make in one’s day-to-day life.

I got tired of Momversation a long time ago, but this one, the pets of Momversation, melted me into a puddle of goo. Especially Asha‘s guinea pig.

What’s making you feel warm and fuzzy these days?

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Speaking of Labor Day

by mayberry on September 1, 2008

Jo: Did it hurt when your babies came out?

Me: [saying] Yes. But it was worth it. [thinking] Please don’t make have The Talk right here in the bathroom at day care.

Jo: I’m not going to have any babies when I’m a grown-up. I’ve been through enough as a kid!

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Out of the beaks of babes

by mayberry on February 16, 2007

Downy Woodpecker by Keith Tate

In the car, the conversation turns to birds, varieties thereof. Jo begins to reel off a list: “There’s bluebirds, there’s peckernoses…”

Jeff nearly veers off the road.

“Um. Peckernoses?” I ask. “OH. Do you mean woodpeckers?”

“Yes!” She replies. “Peckernoses. Because they peck their noses into a tree.”

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A real snot-freezer

by mayberry on February 6, 2007


God, this sucks. I can’t seem to stop eating, our last gas/electric bill was $429.71, and I have huge fights with the kids every time we have to go outside. Typical exchange: Jo refuses to wear her mittens; I tell her she has to; she refuses; repeat until I am yelling “If you don’t wear them you will get frostbite and a doctor will have to cut your fingers off!!!” (no, I’m not proud of that one).

The last time I can rememer being this cold was when I lived in France in college. I stayed in a house just outside of Grenoble, a town in the mountains of Savoie that hosted the Winter Olympics in 1968. Grâce à Dieu, some friend of my parents had a daughter who’d spent time there, and she urged me to bring some long underwear. I had one pair, the silk kind, and I wore them day and night for weeks. I slept in the long johns, flannel pajamas, a hooded sweatshirt, two pairs of socks, and a bathrobe. My bedroom was on the ground floor and jutted out from the front of the house, with three walls and the roof exposed, so it was even more freezing than the rest of the place. (Also loud: A few mornings a week, my host mother’s son would drop off his small children for her to babysit. He’d open the front door, just outside my bedroom door, and shove the kids in, shouting Maman! Je les laisse!! at the top of his lungs, and then leave.)

To get to the university where I took classes, I’d have to walk a half-mile from the house to the bus stop–uphill, naturellement–then take the bus to the tram. If I knew how to upload audio I’d give you my imitation of the disembodied Tram Lady Voice saying “Attention à la fermeture des portes! Ce tram a son terminus à Gare Europole.” I assure you, my impression is dead on.

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Dream on

by mayberry on February 4, 2007

Updated: see answers below!

Match the dream with the family member who recalled it this morning:

1. I was coming home and I was flying in a lawn chair to get there. But I came down too early and landed in a little stream far away from home.

2. I ate 100 carrots.

3. I was graduating from high school and I gave my vice principal 88 turtles, because I didn’t like him and I wanted him to have to take care of them for 100 years.

Answer choices: A. Jeff; B. Mayberry Mom; C. Jo. For extra credit, supply analysis.

…and the correct answers are: 1-B, 2-C, 3-A. While I’m pretty sure Jo was just trying to keep up with the Joneses, Jeff’s and mine are the real deal.

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Remind me again how many kids we have?

by mayberry on February 1, 2007

first the refrigerator, then the world

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Putting the T in "Trashy"

by mayberry on January 30, 2007

Our local paper (also the source of these other gems) ran a story the other day that went something like this: Girl, 17, wants to marry boyfriend, 29. Her parents say OK, as long as you wait until you turn 18. Family plans wedding, to be held a few days after girl’s 18th birthday. Boyfriend announces he does not want to get a marriage license, but still wants to get married. Bride’s parents explain this isn’t legal. Groom relents, goes to courthouse to get license, then refuses to divulge social security number. He is turned away without license. Bride’s parents insist that the wedding can’t take place without the license. Bride and groom return to courthouse, where groom again refuses to reveal social security number because it’s “against his convictions.” They leave without a license and go to their reception site, where groom’s father performs a (totally bogus) ceremony and pronounces them busband and wife. Bride breaks off contact with her parents and takes out a restraining order against them; they’ve now been estranged for 18 months. Groom and groom’s father charged with “false solemnization of marriage.”

I think the only way this could be more depressing is if there were kids involved (thankfully, there’s no mention of that in the article) or if after the toasts at the reception all the guests started clubbing baby seals. Did I mention this was on the front page? I guess there was just nothing else to report.

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Tough sledding

by mayberry on January 29, 2007

We took the kids to the sledding hill yesterday, for the first time this year. One of Mayberry’s charms are these hills, mounds of earth engineered specifically to provide rockin’ runs for snow tubes, toboggans, and whatever else can slide from top to bottom. Opie, of course, protested mightily while being suited up for the outing, his sobs pausing only long enough for him to announce “don’ yike it… don’ yike it!” Jo was eager to go, but also dissolved into tears over the itchiness of her socks.* More than once we considered scrubbing the whole thing, but perservered.

Halfway to the park, Opie consented to move from my arms into the sled and be conveyed thusly the rest of the way, although the look on his face made clear that he was just doing it to humor us. Once there, anytime we set him down on the ground he remained firmly rooted in one spot, every muscle firmly locked (Jeff: “It’s the first time in almost two years that he hasn’t been moving“), and begged, “Hold you!” Each time he saw Jo go down the hill, he seemed the tiniest bit intrigued; but any invitations to have a turn were firmly refused. We took him down a couple of times anyway, and each time he commented, “Fast.” Was this a question? A complaint? A proclamation of delight? We couldn’t be sure.

Jo, meanwhile, was decidedly delighted. Her friend Joe (a boy nine months younger, but about 18 inches taller than she is) arrived at the hill just as we did, and they spent more than an hour hotdogging down: together, separately, with dads, without dads, with sleds, without sleds, head first, feet first, you name it.

Then she fell asleep on the floor in the guest room (hiding behind the bed) at 5 p.m., while Opie chattered endlessly about “p’ay in s’ow! Sedding!” as if he’d actually enjoyed himself.

*She has been complaining a lot lately about itchy extremities. Also blinking in a strange, prolonged way. That combined with her sleepiness has me a little worried. Would you be? (I’m full of questions these days… thanks for the excellent advice on my last batch!)

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Suzanne asked me to report on my first job, at a women’s magazine in New York. At the risk of 1) boring the rest of you to tears and 2) dating myself quite significantly, here goes.

An EA is a secretary/administrative assistant. (I had to pass a filing test in addition to a typing test in order to get the job.) The only difference is that there is an expectation of advancement, and that the documents you handle might actually be kind of fun to read. Oh, and the meetings you go to might be to generate ideas for articles about sex or to come up with come-hither coverlines to help sell your magazine on the newsstand. An EA is generally considered part of the editorial team, and is encouraged to make suggestions, participate at idea meetings, and take on small writing and editing tasks (I used to write the table of contents! I even saved them in my portfolio for awhile…).

Still, most of what I did was pretty boring. I read a lot of slush–unsolicited manuscripts that came through the door by the dozens every day. This was before email, so everything came in big manila envelopes with SASEs inside (remember SASEs?). I wielded a letter opener with alacrity. Most everything was crap and was immediately rejected with a form letter, but I did discover one story (in two years) that was eventually published. When I called the writer to tell her that we wanted to buy the piece, she wasn’t, in my opinion, suitably ecstatic. I don’t think she really understood the odds she’d beaten.

This magazine was one of the very few that still published fiction (hells no it wasn’t the New Yorker), and I worked for the editor who managed those pages; so I also dealt with the fiction slush. Actually, we had a freelance reader who came to the office every couple of weeks to pick up a big box of slush. When it came back from her, I’d dutifully send slightly personalized rejection notes to everyone (using a typewriter and carbon paper). The reader had been instructed to find a few stories in each batch that were worth a second read. I’d read those, and reject them too; once every few months I’d find one promising enough to send on to my boss. I don’t remember any of them ever being printed, but I do remember sending rejection letters to Ursula Hegi. Take that, Oprah! (We had strict rules about the type of stories we’d publish, and anything not in a contemporary, North American setting was out.)

I’ve already mentioned the perks that made up for some of the hours of slicing open mail, taking phone messages, filing, and typing (since there was no email, most of our manuscripts came to us as hard copy, and I had to choose between retyping everything or rehabbing the output of our temperamental scanner, which usually rendered every third or fourth letter incorrectly). Along with the freebies, we sometimes got free food from the recipe-test kitchen, and plenty of movie screening passes. Using these usually required posing as someone else–typically one of our bosses, who had far better things to do than go see Speed two days before it came out in the theaters. While these screenings didn’t involve hobnobbing with celebs, just saving $8 on a movie was a big deal at the time.*

Mostly, though (and here’s where it gets corny) the best perk was the people I met. I count two of my fellow assistants from those days as very close friends, and two more as old friends I wish I had the chance to see and talk to more often. At least five of the people I worked with at that job are now editors-in-chief of major magazines. Many more are senior-level editors, and others are busy authors and freelance writers. We give each other work (making it harder for anyone else out there to break in…sorry), celebrate each other’s successes, and commiserate about the sucky stuff. Was it worth all the paper cuts and ramen noodles? You bet.

*One of the editors I reported to was a minor celebrity in the industry, though. Her husband worked on the business side at another big publishing company, and his mother had a long and distinguished career as the editor-in-chief of a very high-profile magazine. My boss later went on to launch a very successful teen magazine–and then shock everyone by quitting and moving to Europe with the much older man she’d been having an affair with, an executive at the company where she worked. Google is silent on what she’s been doing since then, except for one brief stint at a British publication nearly five years ago. The other editor I worked for became one of the founding editors at O. She’s been there ever since.

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In which you tell me what to do

by mayberry on January 25, 2007

1. My skin is suddenly a disaster: Big zits on my cheeks, terribly dry, scaly patches on my forehead and jawline. Weather? Old age? Birth control (changed in September, but this complexion stuff just started happening in the past few weeks)? Do I buy new makeup, get a facial, or head straight to a dermatologist (or what about my ob/gyn)?

2. My hair is the longest it’s been in a while (past my shoulders). Cut it off? Nancy looks fantastic.

3. My parents have offered to stay with the kids for a weekend this spring while Jeff and I go away for our second ever child-free vacation. We are a few hours’ drive from two major cities (one of which we have not yet visited), two smaller ones (slightly closer, some appealing attractions), and a country/antiquey destination. Your pick?

P.S.: Thanks a million to Kate at Eucalyptus Pillow for my fab new header! I posted it in a completely bass-ackwards kind of way so #4 is: How do I edit my template in Blogger to add my own image?

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